Is It Possible To Be A Single Christian And At The Same Time Be Sexual?
Unfortunately, we live in a world that is sexually charged. Sex is everywhere, and there isn’t a day that goes by when you don’t see sexual themes in advertisements, TV shows, news headlines, or other forms of media.
How can we deal with living in such a sexually disordered environment as Christians?
For many Christians, sexuality causes a lot of grief, uncertainty, and heartache. Some people may have personal secrets they don’t want to disclose with others, while others may not consider sex to be a big problem at all.
Most Christian materials have been unhelpful in resolving the profound issues about sex that women have. “Sex and the Single Girl,” by Dr. Juli Slattery, delves into what the Bible has to say on the subject.
Here are the facts that God wants us to know about being single and Christian, based on her book.
One of the most essential facts from God, according to Dr. Slattery, is that He does not want you to divide your faith and sexuality.
Your sexuality is inextricably linked to your faith, whether you are single or married, having sex, or choosing to remain abstinent.
Our society pushes us to explore sexuality as a means of discovering and expressing who we are, but God wants you to consider who you are. Do you want to be a part of God’s family?
Society teaches you over and over that your sexual preferences don’t matter. The majority of people believe that what you do sexually is as unimportant as what automobile you drive.
However, sex is never only about sex. Our sexual preferences and choices reflect a lot about us and our relationship with God. If you’re like many single Christian women, you’ve built a barrier between your wants, shame, and temptations because they appear to be at odds with your desire to know and please God.
Your sex-related perplexity and secret suffering are inextricably linked to your connection with God, and you can’t compartmentalize them. God is concerned about every aspect of your life, even your “sexual” self.
Take it as an opportunity to connect with God on a deeper level, rather than becoming disheartened and perplexed because you don’t have it all figured out.
God is encouraging you to trust Him with your sexuality, no matter how flawed it appears to be. You can begin to create a more intimate connection with the Lord by embracing His call.
Dr. Slattery provides advice on how Christians might live sexually pure lives as God intended. To begin, we must acknowledge that humans are sexual beings.
Even if you have never had sex, you are still a sexual being, as God intended. He purposefully made you a girl with sexual physical and physiological qualities.
This indicates a desire for connection, relationships, and sensual pleasure. God did not create us with the need for intimacy so that we may be separated or shamed for it.
Instead, God created us with a longing to share our hearts, souls, and bodies with others. You want to be recognized and loved lies behind your sexuality.
Ultimately, your greatest need for intimacy is to know the God who created you. As God intended, your sexuality is linked to who you are as a rational and spiritual woman.
Going a step further, God intended for you to live a life of sexual integrity. “The state of being entire and undivided,” defines integrity.
According to Dr. Slattery, living with sexual integrity implies that your sexuality reflects who you are as a Christian woman.
Your sexual choices are a constant representation of your relationship and spiritual convictions when you live with sexual integrity.
Every day, you make decisions regarding your sexuality, such as what to look at, think about, how much of your heart and body to give away, and how to deal with your sexual history.
Single and married women show broken sexuality when their sexual choices do not match their commitment to follow the Lord. If Jesus is your Savior, your body (including your sexuality) is no longer yours and should be utilized for the glory of God.
You can’t pick and choose which areas to surrender to God as a Christian. Either He is or He is not the Lord of your life. This is really important to comprehend.
Women frequently inquire about what they should do if they have already made a sexual error. Despite the fact that we cannot change the past, Jesus provides us with a path ahead.
Jesus came to save us from our sins and to heal our wounds. You may be familiar with the tangled web of sexual sin and how terrible it can be when it goes against God’s plan. God, on the other hand, calls you to salvation and healing through Jesus.
“Sin is [always] lurking at the door,” God tells Cain in Genesis, “and its yearning is for you, but you must reign over it.” The temptation will come your way, and it’s crucial that you prepare for it.
Because Satan is continuously attempting to knock us down, we fight a daily battle to achieve purity. Your urge to express your sexuality isn’t always a negative thing, but Satan distorts it and offers you shortcuts.
These imposters may pretend to satisfy your heart’s desires, but they will only leave you feeling hurt, rejected, and degraded.
Every woman is susceptible to phony closeness. We can fall into the trap through sex before marriage, dreams, and pornography, to name a few examples.
According to Dr. Slattery, there are a few tactics that might help you resist temptation. To begin, you must refrain from flirting with sin.
You may not become nude with a guy, but you may allow him to put his hands on you. You’re coming closer to the edge of your principles and ideals, even though you think you’ve got things under control.
Temptation can overpower you at any time and shatter you. Second, you can equip yourself with God’s armor. This entails laying a firm foundation with God, maintaining open channels of contact with Him, and thoroughly comprehending His teachings in order to prepare for spiritual combat.
When you’re presented with temptation, you’ll feel confident in your ability to resist. Finally, you don’t want to spiritually isolate yourself. It’s easier to resist temptation when you have fellow Christians on your side.
Choosing to live a life of sexual integrity can help you grow closer to God. However, there are still obstacles in the way of making it a reality.
Every woman has had obstacles between herself and God, and the Bible’s central message is God’s intention and desire to break down those barriers between Himself and His children.
He desires a personal connection with you, regardless of your previous mistakes. Destroy these fortifications! Know that God designed you to be a sexual being, and as a single Christian, you may embrace this by having an intimate connection with Him until you find your soulmate.